I want you to realise it is just food. It does not have the capacity to make you feel better about yourself, YOU have the capacity to make you feel better about yourself. If you feel like you are turning to food for pleasure because your life is devoid of joy and happiness, it is YOU who has to put yourself back in the driver’s seat of your life and make the changes here. YOU are the one with the power to make the changes to your relationships, career, health, finances or whatever other aspects that may be leaving you feeling like a hopeless, powerless basketcase.

Now have a think about what is come in your day and if you are reading this at night, what is to come the next day. Think about what events you know are going to be happening, is it going to be a nice and fun day or is it going to be a dull, depressing kind of day? If it is going to be the latter, what is one thing you can do (that is not food related) that will help brighten it a bit? Can you spend an extra fifteen minutes doing your hair and makeup nicely? Can you take time to do a meditation? Or is it something along the lines of speaking your truth a little bit more? Can you be honest about a way a particular situation is making you feel?

I used to be in the habit of denying my negative views on things in the hope that it would just go away and dissolve itself without me needing to do anything. In terms of the law of attraction, I was hoping to demanifest them by denying their existence. Sometimes that worked but sometimes it did not and I could only stick my head in the sand for so long. Often it was situations I felt uncomfortable standing up for myself in, confrontation has never been my jam. But it became clear to me that this was an area I needed to grow in so gradually, I began to speak my truth. And you know what I found? The sky did not fall down. People did not leave my life en masse. And my life got better

It is okay to have needs. And it is okay for other people to meet these needs. We meet the needs of others many times a day, get comfortable allowing others to doing the same for you. And it is okay to stop giving so much to others when you have very little in your cup. Fill your cup, allow others to fill your cup too. And it does not have to be all bubble baths and massages, although those things are nice. Often it is in the little micro-adjustments we make in the bigger areas of our lives (think relationships, health, career, finances) that go further than any amount of bubble baths. Adjust the problems that are making you need to turn to food and the need to turn to food goes away.